Has your marriage been going downhill for a long time? Has it been something that you said you would work on but you haven’t put in the effort? If you keep going the same way you have been, telling your spouse that you will change and put in the required effort to save your marriage but keep doing the opposite, things are never going to last. If you want to save your marriage and do not want to risk losing your spouse through a divorce, it is time you made your first move.
Not doing anything about the problem areas of your marriage will not get you anywhere. There is no reason for you to continue telling your spouse you will do something about it and don’t. If you truly love your partner and you want the marriage to last beyond the next few months, you have to start walking the walk instead of just talking the talk. Saying one thing and doing the complete opposite is only going to continue to confuse your spouse. And what you do not want is for your marriage to fall apart because of something you were not doing. If your marriage could easily get back to where it once was, why are you not doing anything about it?
Prove to your spouse that you have the ability to change. Often times in a marriage, couples will change. Sometimes this is for the better and sometimes for the worst. If you take a look back and see that you may have changed for the worst, you need to do something about it right away. Do not spend one more day telling your spouse you’re going to do something different. If you want them in your life for good you need to start taking action. Be the one to repair your marriage and show your spouse just how serious you really are.
If you continue to ignore the issues in your relationship, you are risking its future. It’s truly that simple and straightforward. Those issues are not going to disappear on their own. You need to start doing something to fix them if you want to keep your marriage going. Your spouse is not going to be the one who is going to do all the work for you. You two are married and that means you need to work on this together.
Often, we just think that if we leave things as they are that our partner will pick up the slack and they’ll work harder to remedy the situation. That’s an unfair and unrealistic way of approaching the problems within your marriage. You need to begin putting in the same amount of work and effort as your spouse does. By trying to find ways to fix the relationship you’ll not only be working towards a new beginning but more importantly you’ll be showing your spouse just how invested in the relationship you really are. Your spouse needs to see this from you. If they don’t, they’ll make incorrect assumptions about how little you care about them, the marriage and your family. You can’t let that happen.
Instead of leaving any arguments going unresolved, do your part to resolve them tonight. If the two of you can’s seem to get on the same page with everything, it may be wise to learn to agree to disagree. You and your spouse might not have the same opinion on everything but that does not mean you should let it get in the way. If you want your marriage to work and want it to last then you must solve any ongoing disputes. Stop letting them get in the way of your relationship. There is no need to continuously argue over the same topics day after day. Let your spouse know how serious you really are about making a change by resolving those issues for good.
Listen attentively to what your spouse tells you. If there is something that is bothering her you need to listen and do what you can to fix it. If you are not taking the time to talk to your spouse and get to the bottom of why your marriage is not working, then you need to now. You need to start putting in more effort. Your marriage is not going to be able to last if your spouse is the only one doing something about it. You need to get onto the same page as them and there’s absolutely no time like the present to get working on changing the dynamic that is now present within your marriage.
Look back at your marriage. If you are not sure when things began going downhill, it’s time to sit down and think back on the past few years and everything of significance that has transpired between you and your spouse. You need to go over the problems that keep coming up in your marriage. If you want your spouse to stay your spouse then you need to work on getting your relationship back to where it once was. Thinking that any problems are going to go away on their own, is not going to help. You need to be the one to do something about them. And you need to start doing it now before it becomes too late.
You married your partner for a reason – you loved them and you imagined a life of wonderful moments with them. You knew at the beginning that it wasn’t always going to be easy. You also vowed for better or for worse and today is the day when you can begin the shift back to the best of times. Don’t allow all of the memories you two have built together and the potential to slip away. This is the life of your life – put in the effort to ensure they know how you feel and how deeply you treasure them and the marriage.